As we move into the next presidential election cycle, the mainstream media has a sly “gotcha” question for all the GOP candidates. It’s designed of course to show what hateful bigots all Republicans are.
 
Ben Domenech at the Federalist discusses how a conservative should respond to the hypothetical set-up question ~

“Would you attend a gay wedding” is a matter of personal conscience. But that’s why it’s such an obvious opportunity for turning the question back on the actual policy battle at issue, a bit of ju jitsu I haven’t seen from any of the respondents yet. The whole point is that it’s your decision whether to attend or not.

 
Patrick Archbold, at Creative Minority Report suggests this excellent answer:

Dear Politicians (and anyone else)
 
Here is how you answer the “Would you attend a gay wedding?” gotcha question.
 
Q: Would you attend a gay wedding for a friend or loved one?
 
A: Any gay person close enough to me to actually want me there, be they friend or close relative, would never invite me, for to do so would be disrespectful of me and my faith. They would know this since they are so close to me.
I wouldn’t attend the birthday party for someone who shows disrespect to my person or my faith. Would you?

 
In other words, speak from your heart with conviction and compassion – and send the ball back to their court.
 
Domenech explains further ~

Conservatives and (most) libertarians believe people ought to be able to decide whether to freely associate with others themselves, not be dragooned by the force of government into mandatory associations as the secular left maintains. The entire point of religious freedom laws in Indiana and elsewhere is that we want to give people who say “I cannot in good conscience participate in this ceremony” the right to defend themselves in court based on their deeply held beliefs.